The 2016 Purple Power Seminar is 60 days away! I hope you all are as excited as I am to learn, share, and encourage one another for yet another amazing event! This is a reminder that the regular registration deadline is June, 2015. I encourage you all to register as soon as possible so you won’t miss out on great speakers, great food, and great fellowship with your BFDC sisters!
For any questions or concerns, feel free to contact our National Directors of Special Projects, Aierress Hanna email@example.com or Jakia Rodgers at firstname.lastname@example.org.
See you in Orlando August 15th!
The Black Female Development Circle’s, Inc mission is to Educate, Explore, Enhance, and Celebrate Womanhood. One of BFDC’s principles is “Generate a stable environment of respect, admiration, and appreciation for our own kind and our contributions.” Each year in March we celebrate National Women’s History Month. It a time to highlight and celebrate the contributions women have made in history. Over the years in our nation women have been unsung heroes. This year’s theme is “Weaving the Stories of Women’s Lives” presents the opportunity to weave women’s stories – individually and collectively – into the essential fabric of our nation’s history.”
Leadership, courage, strength and love were attributes of women who played a vital role in building America. The United Nations has sponsored International Women’s Day since 1975. When adopting its resolution on the observance of International Women’s Day, the United Nations General Assembly cited the following reasons: “To recognize the fact that securing peace and social progress and the full enjoyment of human rights and fundamental freedoms require the active participation, equality and development of women; and to acknowledge the contribution of women to the strengthening of international peace and security.”
Over the years, woman have taken lead roles in health care, education, civil rights, equality, politics, etc. Each year, the collegiate chapters of BFDC celebrate Women’s History Month through a multicultural activity, Shades of Womanhood. Some chapters have a night of the arts, while others plan full conference activities, the goal is to celebrate all women past and present.
I ask each of you to continue to “be champions”, continue celebrating those before you and those around you so that we can continue to make a difference and develop as a community using the collective intelligence, wisdom, leadership and experience of all.
My colleague shared this with our leadership team and I found it interesting. Do agree? What are your thoughts?
What I Learned
I’ve learned – you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved.
I’ve learned – no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.
I’ve learned – it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned – it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.
I’ve learned – you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something.
I’ve learned – it’s not what happens to people that’s important, it’s what they do about it.
I’ve learned – you can do something in an instant that will have consequences for the rest of your life.
I’ve learned – you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I’ve learned – either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I’ve learned – regardless of how steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I’ve learned – learning to forgive takes practice.
I’ve learned – money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I’ve learned – sometimes I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
I’ve learned – true friendship continues to grow. Same goes for true love.
I’ve learned – maturity has more to do with what you’ve learned from your experiences and less to do with how many years you’ve lived.
I’ve learned – you should never tell a child their dreams are unrealistic. What a tragedy, if they believed you.
I’ve learned – no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you and you will have to forgive them.
I’ve learned – it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you need to forgive yourself.
I’ve learned – no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I’ve learned – just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other and just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
I’ve learned – you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I’ve learned – no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt too.
I’ve learned – there are many ways of falling and staying in love.
I’ve learned – even when you think you have no more to give, you find the strength.
I’ve learned – credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I’ve learned – the people you care about in life may be taken from you too soon.
I’ve learned – two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I’ve learned – our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I’ve learned – most people don’t listen to others to try and understand but they listen to reply.
I’ve learned – it’s taking me a very long time to become the person I still want to be.
“A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.” -Vernon Howard
To be self-empowered, “one must have the strength to do something through one’s own thoughts and based on the belief that one knows whats best for oneself.” How about asking what do I want? Is this meaningful? Does this have purpose and value to me? What do I believe? The opinion of family, friends, coworkers, etc shouldn’t be a factor when seeking your goals. A person aiming for self empowerment must make positive choices and set goals. Developing self-awarenss, the process of identifying your strengthens and weaknesses. What are you limitations? Limitations are key to personal empowerment.
Self-empowerment is liberating because taking full responsibility for your life means you:
- make your own choices and decisions;
- live according to your own personal operating system and values;
- are free from the anxiety of living up to the expectations of others;
- experience the joy of being authentically yourself.
However, it’s frightening because you:
- can no longer blame others for your failures and disappointments;
- can’t cling to childish, dependent security from others;
- have to let go of the “old you,” even if that person was holding you back.
Through empowering yourself, those fears no longer exist because you are now taking personal responsibility for your decisions and actions. Things are easier and life is more enjoyable because you are creating it on your own terms rather than reacting to it.
So what’s the secret to living a self-empowered life? The real secret is awareness. Once you are aware that you are giving away your power through fear and blaming, you are more than halfway there.
Take a step back and analyze whats before you. You’re no longer to play this victim, your no longer here to please others. Understanding YOU and taking care of YOU is the goal and priority.