All posts by Shirelle Wright

Womanhood-Motherhood

We just celebrated Mother’s day! A day to celebrate and praise the women that have made it possible for each and every one of us to be here. Mother’s day is a day to celebrate one of the feminine contributions to our society.  All women, regardless of age, marital status, and personal circumstances, can have great influence for good. We can all “mother” children and youth around us in our families, neighborhoods, communities, church goers, etc. We can all look for those around us who need our loving care and support.

In some ways motherhood is all about womanhood. The power of our bodies in giving birth, providing nourishment; our love, our nurturing. Those are all the things that are womanhood. I don’t have children but It seems like everyone in my age group is either pregnant or have just had a baby. I admire their strength and courage in going through this life change. Hopefully one day I’ll be in their place, no rush though :-). One thing that a lot of the women have in common is self-body image. As a woman going through “The change” i.e. pregnancy, it takes a toll on their confidence and how they perceive themselves. The same goes for all women, whenever there is a drastic change with our exterior i.e pregnancy, car accident, weight gain, etc, we as women at times think that it’s the end of the world. I guess you can say I’m a victim. I went to college as a slim waist, 5”7, fine, 123lbs stallion, lol. I left school a stallion but weighing about 150lbs. I saw my body changing but didn’t really feel like I had “time” to get the weight gain under control. And as a woman I started to get frustrated and mad with myself like we all do. I have it under control now, let’s just say LA Fitness is now my best friend #bittersweet lol 🙂

As women and mothers we want to make sure we realize that self image is all mental. Meaning either you get over it or take care of. We as women have to increase self-care first before we wait for validation from others on how we look. Just be comfortable in your own skin and think positive. As we turn to God for guidance and seek to prioritize our lives so that the most important relationships get our best time and effort. We have to remember that we can be powerful instruments in His hands for eternal good. With low self-esteem that’s not possible. So stop beating yourself up about how this looks and that looks… 🙂  You’re beautiful! I’m beautiful! We’re beautiful!

 We have to remember that without us there would be nothing. Without mothers there would be no Barack and Michelle Obama, Condoleezza Rice, Hillary Clinton, Coretta Scott King, etc.  So we must remember not to give ourselves such a hard time. Let’s be the inspiring and nurturing women God created and hopefully take over the world someday. Because if you think about it, it really is ours!  “Who run the world? Girls!” 🙂

Happy Mother’s Day everyone, everyday!!!!

‘Tis the season!

‘Tis the season!

I was watching the news this morning and my local news station had a segment on a “Secret Santa” that was spotted in neighborhood dollar stores and thrift stores, etc. His goal is to give away $1 million each holiday season; apparently he does this every year. Of course they wouldn’t show his face while he handed various customers $100s of dollars but I was able to see the expressions of the recipients. They were really thankful and overwhelmed that someone just gave away money without looking back. That got me to thinking… yes its good to give to family, friends, co-workers etc, but what about giving to those that are really in need?

If you don’t want to do like the “Secret Santa” and just walk in various stores giving away money, there are various charities and local organizations that are in need of your help to make a family or child’s holiday season joyous. From donating toys to serving turkey at a local pantry, you can be a “Secret Santa” and put a smile on someone’s face.

Don’t forget that “Tis the Season to be Jolly”, so make sure you do your part to help at least 1 person in need this holiday season be as jolly as can be.

Happy Holidays!
–Shirelle

Whip My Hair

“I whip my hair back and forth
I whip my hair back and forth (whip it real good)
I whip my hair back and forth
I whip my hair back and forth
Don’t let haters keep me off my grind
Keep my head up I know I’ll be fine
Keep fighting until I get there
When I’m down and I feel like giving up I think again”

I know everyone has either seen or heard the new song “Whip My Hair” by Willow Smith. For starters I think she is so adorable and she has so much “swag” to be a 9 year-old. After watching the video and looking at a couple YouTube postings, I started thinking, hmmmm, I wonder if she knows how many people she has touched by this song, White, Black, Latino, Gay, Lesbian, straight, ages 5 to 40+. She and her team have created a club hit but also a confidence booster. There are times when you may be down, stressed or feel like nothing’s going right just push play and start ‘Whipping your hair’. Meaning, don’t sweat the small stuff.

Always try and remain positive in everything you do. I was once told, “If you don’t have haters then you must not be doing something right”. So continue doing you and doing what you love because haters will always be around trying to spoil what you have achieved. It’s up to you not to let them get the best of you. Just keep your head up and be the best person you know you can be. And it doesn’t hurt to just let your hair down and Whip it. 🙂 Thanks Willow, you ‘Did That’ girl!

And to all my natural sistas that may get down about your hair at times…Check this out, this is for you 🙂

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=enpFde5rgmw&feature=related

Am I Beautiful?

I was watching a  show on Style network called ” How do I look?” and the episode was about a mother in her 40s with a serious fashion/clothing/image problem. The woman was white, but the things she was saying really hit me. She said things like “I dress like this because it makes me feel pretty”, “I still want to look young”, and “If it fits, why not?”.

I started thinking about what I hear my friends say when it comes to us picking out an outfit for an event. Why are we as WOMEN, black and white, so hard on ourselves? Do we really have to fit in that badly? After watching that episode, I realized there are really some things that need to be looked at.

How do you feel about yourself, inside and out?  Are there things that you wish you could change? If so, why? I feel that each and every person may have a negative outlook about something pertaining to their image. But God created us differently, we are unique in our very own way and this is how we’re supposed to be.

So dig deep and see what your own image is, bring it to light and flourish. You’re beautiful!

Let It Go

It’s crazy how we as women have come so far but still hold ourselves back with “Bitterness”. Why are we so bitter? Why do we hold grudges? It’s an emotion that is crippling us and we must stop it as its spreads from generation to generation.  Ask yourself: do you cringe when you see something that you can’t have, a black man with white woman, seeing your ex? Being bitter can turn into violent and/or self destructive behavior that can lead to a world full of aggression.

Why choose to live to life with such anger and hatred? Instead turn that negative energy into something positive and just GET OVER IT. I know it may sound easier said than done but it’ll lead to something greater in the long run, I promise :-).

So next time you see a girl that “tried” you, a guy that you previously dated, a teacher you think cheated you, etc. Just think that life is too short to be dwelling on something that doesn’t matter any longer or that happened in the past. Let’s move on and Let go.