Let’s talk about friends and relationships for a minute. Now ladies, when you have first met a man and are in the beginning stage of the relationship do you notice something? Something like, your girlfriends criticizing every little thing. Or what about this scenario…you and your girlfriends are out, the man and his guy friends are out at the same place, you all know each other are hanging around and what do you hear next? Girl, did he just let that girl put her arms around his and start whispering in his ear? The next thing you know you are standing in awww, trying to figure out what’s going on, your girlfriends are in your ear the rest of the night, talking about how this man is playing you, and how to let him go. But, in your mind, you are thinking about that hour and thirty minute conversation you had three nights ago, the constant text messages throughout the day, and all of the upfront information you already know, that he didn’t hide from you, some vital information. So, while you are in the scenario, all you can think is what’s going on? Why would he do this? He knows I’m here. Is he really that brave? The rest of the night has been ruined because these are things that are only on your mind the rest of the night. Oh, wait, did I mention that later on in the night the man comes and dances with you, like nothing happened. That really throws you for a loop. The next day, you are at work, you are wondering why he hasn’t called or text you, should you call or text him, should you listen to your girlfriends who are saying just let him go? You pick up the phone, and call a friend who wasn’t there to see what happened. And she tells you, that you don’t have all the facts. She says just wait and see what he says when you talk to him. He calls and says let me tell you what was happening last night. You hear his story and you believe him, but later on at dinner at girl talk time, you tell your girlfriends what he said, and here comes the he’s lying, he had all day to think of that story, why are you being foolish, he is playing you. But, you are ignoring the most important thing that is trying to talk to you….your heart. What do you do? Do you listen to your girlfriends who think they are just saving you from heartache? Or do you listen to the man who tells you what happened, and you have no reason to think it’s false? The moral of this story is, your friends keep your best interest at heart. But, that also results in a very high protective level. Let your heart lead you. You can take into consideration what your girlfriends tell you, but the final decision should come from you and your heart. And if you do that, a strong relationship can come out of it for you. And true friends will stand by your side, regardless of what decision you make. But best believe, they will be on stand by, to pop off, if that man needs to be checked in the future :). By the way, would you like to hear what he said when he explained the situation? Well, just stay tuned for my next blog…that’s a whole other story in itself.