“I Am Not My Sister’s Keeper, I Am My Sister”

“I am not my sister’s keeper, I am my sister.” – Iyanla Vanzant

This quote has to be one of the most powerful quotes I have ever heard in a long time. Iyanla Vanzant, best-selling author and motivational speaker, recently premiered her new show, “Iyanla Fix My Life” on Oprah’s OWN Network. Her first interview was with Basketball Wives’ cast member Evelyn Lozada. In efforts to change her public image, Evelyn called Iyanla to help her deal with her issues. When Ms. Vanzant  mentioned the above quote, she was telling Evelyn that her “thug” behavior was a representation of women, and how that’s the image of women that the world will see. Is that a good representation of me? Absolutely not. Is that a good representation of you? Absolutely not.

We all know the story of Evelyn, from her potty mouth and ridiculous behavior on TV, to now her pending divorce from Chad Johnson due to a domestic dispute. The most powerful point of the interview was when Iyanla told Evelyn that her negative behavior on TV (using the B-word, throwing drinks, hopping on tables) will one day “cost her.” Plainly, it is going to cost her to lose something for her to be brought back down to REALity– her truth. That moment just shot through my spirit because just days after that interview, reports of Chad head-butting Evelyn were all over the media. Boy, did it cost her. However, this blog is not to bad-mouth Evelyn and laugh at the things that has happened to her. Rather, this blog is more about how WE, women represent each other in everything we do and say.

We have to ask ourselves the following questions:

1. Who am I?

2. How do I talk to my sisters?

3. How do I deal with issues with my sisters?

4. How do I love my sisters?

5. How do I EDUCATE, EXPLORE, ENHANCE, and CELEBRATE my sisters?

I hope the answers will help you as much as mine helped me. And I hope I continue to represent my sisters to the best of  my ability. 🙂




P.S. I encourage you to watch the show. Iyanla Vanzant is amazing. 🙂