I don’t have the answer…

So I watched the BET Awards last night with all of my friends on twitter :-), and I was amazed by something I noticed… if a person can sing, their sins are forgiven!

Now, I’m not about to go on a rant about how much I hate Alicia Keys or Chris Brown (because I don’t hate either of them… I don’t even know them), but it was astounding to me that behaviors that are deemed unacceptable in everyday life are not only excused for great singers/artists, but defended and justified as well. I’m happy Alicia Keys is happy, and her affairs are none of my business, but where I’m from the “other woman” is usually demonized. Last night, I saw people “tweeting” about Swizz Beats wife like she was the devil who couldn’t maintain a happy home! Is it really only because the wife can’t sing?

We all know the Chris Brown story, and I don’t think anyone believes domestic violence is a good thing, but people were so excited to see him dance that I started thinking something was wrong with me. Everyone was applauding his “come back”. What did he come back to… awards shows? From what I can tell he hasn’t stopped working. He has a movie coming out, he was on the Transformers soundtrack, he had an album come out, and he even won the fan favorite award last night. Where I’m from, once a man is labeled a “womanbeater” the women are afraid of him and everyone talks a lot of crap when he isn’t around. Last night I saw people “tweeting” their support of him like he had really been treated unfairly by not doing the MJ tribute last year… really?

Do singers like R. Kelly and BeBe Winans get a pass just because they can sing, or are we too hard on the everyday people who make these same “mistakes”? I don’t have the answer…

“Men are alike in their promises, it is only in their deeds that they differ.” ~Moliere