Everyday I realize more and more how much I’ve truly learned while being in college. While writing a paper in APA format is okay, and knowing the anatomy and physiology of life wouldn’t hurt us, I believe I’ve learned a much more meaningful, relevant and lifelong lesson.
Many of us are currently in college or have been at one point so we know about the pettiness that can occur. If we aren’t constantly talking about an athlete, it’s about a Greek. If it’s not about a Greek, it’s about a modeling troupe. If it’s not about models it’s about a girl who dates an athlete who happens to be a Greek who cheated on them with a model that can’t dress and should wear a better lace front and so on and so forth.
This past weekend I have personally been the victim of pettiness. Long story short, the same individual that has been trying to ruin my life struck once again. From trying to ruin my name to making up lies, Lord knows I wanted to politely give them a piece of my mind but I didn’t. What would be the purpose? What they said about me doesn’t solidify who I am, it doesn’t matter. I know what I stand for and I know the truth so I did not allow them to ruin my day. A year from now I guarantee that the things we once thought were life threatening will become a joke. I’ve learned that MOST things we go through while we are here will have no significance once we graduate, once we enter the real world. The boys we fought over won’t even remember our names, the girls who hated us will be sweeping our floors for a living and the tears we cried will be jokes to our children. With that being said, why allow people and things to rent space in our minds now? Why give situations enough power to make us leave an event early, go around fighting people, feuding via social networks or crying our hearts out? These four years should be the time of our lives. It should be the time where there are no worries, simply homework and fun. We should be basking in our independence, rejoicing at our lack of serious responsibility and enjoying life. I’m convinced that’s impossible to do if we spend every moment caught up in unnecessary drama.
From my own experiences and the experiences of others, I’ve made up in my mind that nothing or no one will affect my life and I think all of you beautiful women should too. I urge you all to join me on the “if it doesn’t apply let it fly” Campaign. The next time a situation occurs ask yourself if in two years it will be of any relevance. If the answer is no, let it go.
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Great blog Britney! Just know that being in college is the real world! People don’t magically get more mature when they graduate. If they’re twitter beefing now, they’ll be twitter beefing when they’re 30. If they’re insecure and lashing out at people now, without therapy and/or soul searching they’ll be insecure and lashing out at 30. If they are passive aggressive now… you get my point. The hope is that if you develop a certain level of maturity in college you’ll maintain it after you leave.
Social networks are used for the wrong things. Instead of finding high school friends or admiring family photos we choose to use them for beef. We as African American women need to first find and love ourselves. College is suppose to be a wonderful experience pertaining to your future., not for jealousy, beef, envy, or broken hearts. Put yourself first, Set standards, encourage one another,and not tear each other down. Britney I think your blog is very uplifting to all women! Ladies dont waste your parents money, let it fly! Great job!