The “List”- Are you Slacking or Lacking?

For the past few months, I have met some interesting women and they all had their own thoughts when it comes to relationships. Due to reality TV, some have taken on the ” Real Housewife” mentality, where our whole existence is dependent on our man. NO MAM! Ladies, we should never bank our entire lives into finding a man with deep pockets. We want our men rich in the mind, rich in love and if his pockets are deep… then that’s just a bonus! Look at the women on these TV Shows, when you take away the diamonds, the cars, the red bottoms and the Remi hair, do they really look happy? …Exactly.

I digress…

In a recent conversation about how to find a man, one woman asked the question, “Well what is on your list? You know, your list of qualifications your man MUST have.” At first, I questioned her on the importance of being all up in my business and she simply replied, “You can tell a lot about a woman from her list. You can see whether she’s slacking and lacking.” Slacking and lacking? OH NO! SHE CALLING ME OUT!

After that, I knew I had to prove this woman wrong. She didn’t know me from a can of paint, nobody knows me better than ME! So, I pulled out a sheet a paper and wrote my list down. As I looked down at the things I wanted from Mr. Right, I suddenly became Mrs. WRONG. Sister Girl was right, I found out a lot about myself that I didn’t even know through my “list.” Actually I saw I few things, that I thought I dealt with. For example, on my list I put: I want a Christian man with a strong relationship with God. It dawned on me that although I am Christian, my relationship with God ain’t what it used to be. So yes I’ve been SLACKING! As crazy as that list became to me, the more sense it made as well. How can I possibly ask for a man to be all these things to me, when I’m not even all these things to myself? After answering that question I am able to progressively deal with the issues without projecting them onto the men I meet.

Ladies, now it is your turn, find a piece a paper a write down your list. The only way this works is if you are 100% honest with yourselves.

So what’s on your list? Do you give what you require? Are you projecting your personal issues on the men you meet? I would love to hear the responses so LET’S TALK!

-BFDCLOVE