I was watching “The First Graduating Class: Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy for Girls” last night on OWN. All of their stories touched me deeply. It’s crazy how we try to imitate what we see on TV i.e. Basketball Wives, Love and Hip Hop, etc. I see women saying how they’re trying be a “BOSS” by way of seeking a “baller” to take care of them and “pay” their way to fame.
Watching these young women, grow up over 4 years while attending Oprah’s school inspired me to do more. About 90% of these girls came from townships and/or poverty, conditions I couldn’t imagine living in. They were strong and determined to be successful women individually; not by having men take care of them.
Be an Individual:
1. Find Yourself first
a. Figure out what makes you you.
i. Aspirations, religion, accomplishments, etc.
2. Be yourself
a. Stop trying to imitate what you see on TV, walking down the street, etc.
i. Start feeling comfortable in your own skin. Don’t give yourself any reason to feel ashamed or embarrassed. Shame and embarrassment are the biggest obstacles to achieving true individuality. Instead of trying to match current trends (i.e. trying to get into pop/punk music to fit in even if you don’t like it), do things that you enjoy doing.
3. Set goals
a. Aim to do something new.
4. Learn to face and overcome criticism
a. Don’t worry about what others say.
5. Question everything.
a. Don’t believe everything you read. Use reliable sources. How many different ways can you do things? Don’t necessarily do things how everyone else is doing them. Find a way they that best fits you.
6. BE ORIGINAL
a. Generic behavior = No Way.
b. Make things your own. Put your stamp on it.
c. Always try to be yourself
7. Love yourself
a. Celebrate yourself privately. Be proud of who you are, your existence.
b. There is only one you
8. Be proud of minor improvement
Romans 12:2 “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. “