The Black Female Development Circle is a 501(c)3 organization that was established in 1994 to serve as a support system for black women. The organization's mission is"To Educate, Explore, Enhance, and Celebrate Womanhood" and has chapters at UCF, FSU, TSU, and FIU. Read more...

Keep Your Faith!

by Ionia Knott on December 15, 2014

It’s amazing how life throws you situations that really test your faith. I was driving on the interstate to dinner when I realized that my car was beginning to stop and was running very hot. I immediately pulled over, grabbed my phone and stepped out of my car. Somehow the door closed behind me and locked, as the car was still running. This situation was quickly turning terrifying. I had a car running hot, blocking traffic, and smoking with no way of turning it off. I knew at this moment before anything I needed to pray and let God handle the situation. I wasn’t going to be able to handle it by myself and even 911 told me there was nothing they could do.

At this point I’m alone in the cold on the interstate with a volatile car and nowhere to go but I just kept holding on to faith. Eventually my mom made it with someone who was able to get my door open and stop it before anything could happen to anyone. No one could take control of a situation like that but God. That’s why we should never lose our faith no matter how the situation looks. He will come through every time!

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The regular registration deadline for the BFDC 5th National Conference “Blooming Excellence” is quickly approaching. I want to take this time to encourage you to Experience this event for Yourself. We have an exciting line up planned, including our featured speakers Bereolaesque and Angela Donald who is sure to leave you in your feelings (in a great way).

2015 National Conference
“Blooming Excellence”
Friday, March 6, 2015
8pm National Miss Woman of Excellence Pageant
Saturday, March 7, 2015
Sessions, Sessions, Sessions!!!
12:00pm Luncheon and Keynote Address
Featuring – Bereolaesque
Q & A and Book Signing

http://www.bereolaesque-online.com/

6pm – 8pm Paint the City Purple
Sunday, March 8, 2015
9:00am Spirit Led, Spirit Fed Breakfast/ Group Therapy
Featuring Angela Donald

The regular registration deadline is December 15th and we want to see you all there. This experience recap will not do this event justice. Be there to capture the energy, bottle the inspiration, and make memories that will last a lifetime. You work hard, you owe this to yourself. BFDC Love

Brittany

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I Am Not Who You Say I Am

by Jazmin Jones on December 1, 2014

This week was an emotional rollercoaster for many of us. The Mike Brown case filled me with mixed emotions about my place in this world, better yet in this country. How safe can I be in a nation that sees me as an animal first and a person second? How safe can I feel in a nation where people will shoot first and ask questions later?

I thought about my ancestors, how they must be shaking their heads and rolling their eyes at their hard work unraveling. How destroyed they must be. How disappointed they must be in our actions this week.

Then thanksgiving came and I saw a glimmer of hope. I was surrounded by loving family members that reminded me of who I am and who I belong to. I am a Christian, a child of God. I am a strong black woman who comes from a strong line of black men and women who suffered in silence so that I can speak up.
I am not an animal, a beast, or a demon.
I am not a threat to national security.
I am not just a color.
I am not just a woman.
I am not who you say I am.

I am human and I expect to be treated as such.

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Gratitude

by Kiara Nair on November 24, 2014

With Thanksgiving coming in just a few days, we often have 3 things on our mind:

1. What we’re going to eat,

2. The awesome deals we’re going to get on Black Friday and

3. What we are truly grateful for.

 

Strategically, number three is often last on our list. Unfortunately, this time of year is moreso about “getting” than it is about “giving”… Thanksgiving is slowing becoming known as Brown Thursday because Black Friday deals are now beginning on the actual day that we reserve to spend time with our family, friends and loved ones! You’d be surprised how many people are planning to end dinner early just to go get the things they want. All in all, let’s really enjoy this day. For some of us, this may be the ONLY day our families actually want to come together. Make the most of it. Make new memories with family and friends you haven’t seen in 364 days. Take pictures because you may not know when you may see them again. Relish in the day…

 

Be grateful! Life may not be what you want it to be but I’m sure we can agree that it’s far better than it was! I leave with you this awesome poem I was blessed to be apart of… Enjoy!

 

 

Sincerely, Kiara J. Nair-Mason

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Embrace Yourself

by Johnesha Hinson on November 17, 2014

Dear Woman,

Sometimes you’ll just be too much woman.

Too smart, too sexy, too strong.

Too bold, too beautiful, too real.

Too much of something that makes a man feel like less of a man, which will start making you feel like

you have to be less of a woman to be with that man.

One of the biggest mistakes you can make as a woman is removing jewels from your crown to make it

easier for a man to carry.

You do not need a smaller crown.

You need a man with bigger hands.

I came across this letter on Facebook and I LOVED it! As women we NEED to hold ourselves to a higher standard. Often times we find ourselves so desperate for companionship that we will do anything to get the attention of a man. I learned a long time ago not to apologize for being ME. As women we have to embrace our looks, our personalities, and our ambitions because no one else can truly love us until we love ourselves.

“At your absolute best, you still won’t be good enough for the WRONG person. At your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right person.”

So to my fellow single sisters I encourage you to continue building yourself up, work towards self-actualization, enjoy the single life, DON’T SETTLE for less than you deserve, and have faith that you will find your companion when the time is right.

#BFDClove #BFDConPurpose

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BFDC sisters!

Our National Conference is just four short months away! To all my Scandal fans out there, we will be taking over the hometown of Olivia Pope and painting Washington D.C. Purple!

This is a friendly reminder that our Early Registration Deadline is Sunday, November 17th. National Collegiate Members will pay the low, low price of $175 and Alumni members will pay just $10 more ($185).

Send in your registration fees today! You’re in for a real treat!

#BFDCGladiators

Johora Warren

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“Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.”
-Mary Kay Ash

I challenge you to never fall victim to self-inflicted limitations. Believe in yourself; believe in your ability to accomplish what your heart desires. If you think that your goals are too big, that is great! If God placed it in your heart, then He will give you the tools to achieve them. “Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing in the game.”

Go be great!

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Greetings!

For those of you with a desire to empower and inspire women on your campus and in your community, it’s not too late to join the Black Female Development Circle, Inc.! We are still accepting National Dues until October 30, 2014. If you desire to be a member of one of our collegiate chapters for the 2014-2015 fiscal year, please refer to the instructions and deadline reminders below:

National dues must be paid by October 30, 2014 (through the collegiate chapter on your university’s campus)
National Chapter Membership dues are now $30 per person (includes the  $5 late fee).

If you desire to register as an Alumni/At-Large Member for the 2014-2015 fiscal year, please click on the link below to fill in your registration information. After you submit registration, a PayPal invoice will be e-mailed to you. Please review the deadlines and instructions below:

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1HYTEz9qxQpTLCmQzBJyYED5Q-A21oKXqmo1h-EgZMYA/viewform

National dues must be paid by October 30, 2014.
National Alumni Membership dues are now $40 per person (includes the $5 late fee).

If you happen to miss this deadline, we will have another dues collection period in the Spring! We are looking forward to another year of our members furthering the mission of BFDC by educating, exploring, enhancing, and celebrating womanhood!

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Be proud!

by Ionia Knott on October 20, 2014

I love BFDC, but that goes without saying. At USF, I’ve watched as our chapter has blossomed from a small group of girls to a well known organization on campus that has made its presence known. I guess that is why I was seriously offended when I was alerted of a twitter comment stating “does BFDC even still exist?” Clearly meant to be an insult to our organization, my first thought was to make a snappy comment about how no one even knew who he was. Unfortunately I don’t have a twitter so that was not an option. My sisters on the other hand decided to simply address the issue by letting him know our meeting dates and times. I felt as if this response was too passive and more should have been said but as I stepped back I realized how insignificant this comment truly was. The opinions of others do not measure our success. Only we know everything it took to reach the point that we are now and just how far we have made it. Nothing can diminish the tireless efforts put forth by my sisters before me and those now. Simply, this comment has no power.
In life, there will always be those who will have something negative to say. Just remember to always be proud of what you accomplish because your opinion is the only one that matters!

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My colleague shared this with our leadership team and I found it interesting. Do agree? What are your thoughts?

What I Learned

I’ve learned – you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. 

I’ve learned – no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back. 

I’ve learned – it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. 

I’ve learned – it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts. 

I’ve learned – you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something. 

I’ve learned – it’s not what happens to people that’s important, it’s what they do about it. 

I’ve learned – you can do something in an instant that will have consequences for the rest of your life.

I’ve learned – you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them. 

I’ve learned – either you control your attitude or it controls you. 

I’ve learned – regardless of how steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place. 

I’ve learned – learning to forgive takes practice. 

I’ve learned – money is a lousy way of keeping score. 

I’ve learned – sometimes I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel. 

I’ve learned – true friendship continues to grow. Same goes for true love. 

I’ve learned – maturity has more to do with what you’ve learned from your experiences and less to do with how many years you’ve lived. 

I’ve learned – you should never tell a child their dreams are unrealistic. What a tragedy, if they believed you. 

I’ve learned – no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you and you will have to forgive them. 

I’ve learned – it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you need to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned – no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief. 

I’ve learned – just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other and just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do. 

I’ve learned – you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever. 

I’ve learned – no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt too. 

I’ve learned – there are many ways of falling and staying in love. 

I’ve learned – even when you think you have no more to give, you find the strength. 

I’ve learned – credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I’ve learned – the people you care about in life may be taken from you too soon.

I’ve learned – two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different. 

I’ve learned – our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become. 

I’ve learned – most people don’t listen to others to try and understand but they listen to reply. 

I’ve learned – it’s taking me a very long time to become the person I still want to be.

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