The Black Female Development Circle is a 501(c)3 organization that was established in 1994 to serve as a support system for black women. The organization's mission is"To Educate, Explore, Enhance, and Celebrate Womanhood" and has chapters at UCF, FSU, TSU, and FIU. Read more...

Embrace Yourself

by Johnesha Hinson on November 17, 2014

Dear Woman,

Sometimes you’ll just be too much woman.

Too smart, too sexy, too strong.

Too bold, too beautiful, too real.

Too much of something that makes a man feel like less of a man, which will start making you feel like

you have to be less of a woman to be with that man.

One of the biggest mistakes you can make as a woman is removing jewels from your crown to make it

easier for a man to carry.

You do not need a smaller crown.

You need a man with bigger hands.

I came across this letter on Facebook and I LOVED it! As women we NEED to hold ourselves to a higher standard. Often times we find ourselves so desperate for companionship that we will do anything to get the attention of a man. I learned a long time ago not to apologize for being ME. As women we have to embrace our looks, our personalities, and our ambitions because no one else can truly love us until we love ourselves.

“At your absolute best, you still won’t be good enough for the WRONG person. At your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right person.”

So to my fellow single sisters I encourage you to continue building yourself up, work towards self-actualization, enjoy the single life, DON’T SETTLE for less than you deserve, and have faith that you will find your companion when the time is right.

#BFDClove #BFDConPurpose

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BFDC sisters!

Our National Conference is just four short months away! To all my Scandal fans out there, we will be taking over the hometown of Olivia Pope and painting Washington D.C. Purple!

This is a friendly reminder that our Early Registration Deadline is Sunday, November 17th. National Collegiate Members will pay the low, low price of $175 and Alumni members will pay just $10 more ($185).

Send in your registration fees today! You’re in for a real treat!

#BFDCGladiators

Johora Warren

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“Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.”
-Mary Kay Ash

I challenge you to never fall victim to self-inflicted limitations. Believe in yourself; believe in your ability to accomplish what your heart desires. If you think that your goals are too big, that is great! If God placed it in your heart, then He will give you the tools to achieve them. “Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing in the game.”

Go be great!

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Greetings!

For those of you with a desire to empower and inspire women on your campus and in your community, it’s not too late to join the Black Female Development Circle, Inc.! We are still accepting National Dues until October 30, 2014. If you desire to be a member of one of our collegiate chapters for the 2014-2015 fiscal year, please refer to the instructions and deadline reminders below:

National dues must be paid by October 30, 2014 (through the collegiate chapter on your university’s campus)
National Chapter Membership dues are now $30 per person (includes the  $5 late fee).

If you desire to register as an Alumni/At-Large Member for the 2014-2015 fiscal year, please click on the link below to fill in your registration information. After you submit registration, a PayPal invoice will be e-mailed to you. Please review the deadlines and instructions below:

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1HYTEz9qxQpTLCmQzBJyYED5Q-A21oKXqmo1h-EgZMYA/viewform

National dues must be paid by October 30, 2014.
National Alumni Membership dues are now $40 per person (includes the $5 late fee).

If you happen to miss this deadline, we will have another dues collection period in the Spring! We are looking forward to another year of our members furthering the mission of BFDC by educating, exploring, enhancing, and celebrating womanhood!

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Be proud!

by Ionia Knott on October 20, 2014

I love BFDC, but that goes without saying. At USF, I’ve watched as our chapter has blossomed from a small group of girls to a well known organization on campus that has made its presence known. I guess that is why I was seriously offended when I was alerted of a twitter comment stating “does BFDC even still exist?” Clearly meant to be an insult to our organization, my first thought was to make a snappy comment about how no one even knew who he was. Unfortunately I don’t have a twitter so that was not an option. My sisters on the other hand decided to simply address the issue by letting him know our meeting dates and times. I felt as if this response was too passive and more should have been said but as I stepped back I realized how insignificant this comment truly was. The opinions of others do not measure our success. Only we know everything it took to reach the point that we are now and just how far we have made it. Nothing can diminish the tireless efforts put forth by my sisters before me and those now. Simply, this comment has no power.
In life, there will always be those who will have something negative to say. Just remember to always be proud of what you accomplish because your opinion is the only one that matters!

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My colleague shared this with our leadership team and I found it interesting. Do agree? What are your thoughts?

What I Learned

I’ve learned – you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. 

I’ve learned – no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back. 

I’ve learned – it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. 

I’ve learned – it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts. 

I’ve learned – you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something. 

I’ve learned – it’s not what happens to people that’s important, it’s what they do about it. 

I’ve learned – you can do something in an instant that will have consequences for the rest of your life.

I’ve learned – you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them. 

I’ve learned – either you control your attitude or it controls you. 

I’ve learned – regardless of how steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place. 

I’ve learned – learning to forgive takes practice. 

I’ve learned – money is a lousy way of keeping score. 

I’ve learned – sometimes I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel. 

I’ve learned – true friendship continues to grow. Same goes for true love. 

I’ve learned – maturity has more to do with what you’ve learned from your experiences and less to do with how many years you’ve lived. 

I’ve learned – you should never tell a child their dreams are unrealistic. What a tragedy, if they believed you. 

I’ve learned – no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you and you will have to forgive them. 

I’ve learned – it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you need to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned – no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief. 

I’ve learned – just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other and just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do. 

I’ve learned – you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever. 

I’ve learned – no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt too. 

I’ve learned – there are many ways of falling and staying in love. 

I’ve learned – even when you think you have no more to give, you find the strength. 

I’ve learned – credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I’ve learned – the people you care about in life may be taken from you too soon.

I’ve learned – two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different. 

I’ve learned – our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become. 

I’ve learned – most people don’t listen to others to try and understand but they listen to reply. 

I’ve learned – it’s taking me a very long time to become the person I still want to be.

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A year ago I never would have thought how much taking on the role of Collegiate Representative would affect me. I knew it would be a challenge, but my want to serve my collegiate sisters out-shined all doubts or concerns that I may have had.

To my Collegiate Sisters,
It has truly been a pleasure serving as the voice of you all, I thank you so much for entrusting me with such a precious task. Within entering into this position my goals were to justly speak on your behalf to the National Board, stay connected on a National level, and ultimately experience growth within our Sisterhood.

While I would have loved for all of my wants to be fulfilled in the vision that I set for them, I am so happy to see that we are all making the necessary steps to fulfill our mission as an organization. Of course there is always more work to be done but I am glad to know that within progress is success. I love you all and have no doubt that our sisters Jakia and Martine will do an amazing job in continuing with the growth that we have experienced this year.

To the National Board,
I learned so much from you all. From a business perspective I gained knowledge in event planning, responsibility, and ultimately how it is to work with fellow strong minded black women.
Four years ago it was the support, inspiration, and motivation from older sisters that caused me to fall in love the Black Female Development Circle Inc.

While at first I was nervous to see if I would receive the love on a national level, I am so blessed and thankful to say that my doubts were invalid. You all supported me in by far one of the toughest times of my life, not because you felt like you had to but because you wanted to and I don’t think you will ever understand how appreciative I am of that. You all give me inspiration knowing that in the midst of life obstacles that God will always be there and so will you.
Thank you all.

Well it is finally time for me to say good bye…

…That was a little dramatic lol, See you all in Washington!
#BFDCLove
Maya Francis

 

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Dues Reminder

by Alexis Rhames on September 29, 2014

Greetings!

If you have a desire to empower, educate, and inspire women on your campus and in your community, the Black Female Development Circle, Inc. is the organization for you! As a reminder, National Dues are due on October 1, 2014. If you desire to be a member of one of our collegiate chapters for the 2014-2015 fiscal year, please refer to the instructions and deadline reminders below:

  1. National dues must be paid by October 1, 2014 (through the collegiate chapter on your university’s campus)
  2. National Chapter Membership dues are $25 per person.
  3. A late fee of $5 will be assessed from October 2, 2014 until October 30, 2014.

If you desire to register as an Alumni/At-Large Member for the 2014-2015 fiscal year, please click on the link below to fill in your registration information. After you submit registration, a PayPal invoice will be e-mailed to you. Please review the deadlines and instructions below:

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1HYTEz9qxQpTLCmQzBJyYED5Q-A21oKXqmo1h-EgZMYA/viewform

  1. National dues must be paid by October 1, 2014.
  2. National Membership dues are $35 per person.
  3. A late fee of $5 will be assessed from October 2, 2014 until October 30, 2014.

We are looking forward to another year of our members furthering the mission of BFDC by educating, exploring, enhancing, and celebrating womanhood!

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Self-Respect

by Johnesha Hinson on September 22, 2014

I overheard something VERY disturbing today. I was in a store and two young women were talking. I heard one of the women say “I am so blessed God gave me the man of my dreams!” (I continued to listen because I wanted to hear more about her happiness). The woman continued her statement with “I love him but he just needs to hurry up and leave his wife!” her friend followed with “He will soon…just be patient.”

I was very disappointed by what I heard not only because of the woman who made the statement but also because of the woman who was encouraging her. It broke my heart that this woman clearly did not have enough self-respect to realize she was settling for less than any woman deserves. Because I am a Christian woman I was even more appalled that she mentioned God led her to this man who was someone else’s husband.

As humans I understand we all make mistakes but as women we HAVE to do better with supporting and uplifting each other in our times of need. As a woman, in my opinion, we should never encourage each other to do harm to ourselves or other women. We already have double standards that we fight against every day because society places them on us. Let’s not fight and tear each other down as well. Building our self-respect must start somewhere so let it start with YOU.

#BFDCLOVE #BFDConPurpose

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Think Before You Speak

by Brittany Daniels on September 15, 2014

There has been a time in all of your lives that we have heard the phrase “Think Before You Speak.” With all the controversy in the news and in our personal lives this week I want to reemphasize the importance of observing your audience. This week wait 5 to 10 seconds to respond to your audience when having a conversation. Really take the time to listen and decide on a response. When given the opportunity to share your thoughts observe your audience, remember the steps below, and hopefully you will not have to apologize for something you meant to say. Have a great week.

Observe Yourself

Recognize Your Situation

Observe the Conversation

Observe the People

Formulate Responses

Consider the Information

Is the Information Effective, Necessary, Accurate, Timely, and Appropriate?

Gauge the Reaction

Be Thoughtful About Your Tone

Communicate

BFDC Love

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