The Black Female Development Circle is a 501(c)3 organization that was established in 1994 to serve as a support system for black women. The organization's mission is"To Educate, Explore, Enhance, and Celebrate Womanhood" and has chapters at UCF, FSU, TSU, and FIU. Read more...

Farewell!

by Ionia Knott on March 3, 2015

As my reign comes to an end I find myself reflecting on the lessons I learned being the National Miss Woman of Excellence. This blessing of an experience has had a greater impact on my life than anyone knows.
Before entering, I found myself being very reserved at school and not very active on campus. I didn’t see much purpose in school beyond going to class and heading back home. There were many things I wanted to go after but couldn’t see myself actually doing. It was not until I stepped up to represent the USF chapter of BFDC in the Miss Woman of Excellence pageant that I started to change. The pageant as a whole gave me the confidence to branch out and go for the things I want most. I developed a deeper love for BFDC and my BFDC sisters as well as felt a greater responsibility to become bolder, more active, and represent our beautiful organization to the best of my ability.
I am unbelievably happy there will be more girls to partake in such a wonderful experience and I hope they can grow from it just as I did. As for our New Miss Woman of Excellence, I would like to leave you with just this one piece of advice: “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me”-Philippians 4:13.

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Don’t get mad get GLAD!

by Johnesha Hinson on February 23, 2015

As women we feel the need to compete with the other women around us whether a family member, coworker, or a friend. I have recently dealt with conflict in the workplace and I have also witnessed conflict in the workplace. I work mostly with women and I find that instead of it being a more comfortable environment to work in there is actually more tension. Women spread lies on one another and try to bring each other down due to envy and jealousy. Our ancestors worked hard to give women the same rights as our male counterparts but we are tearing one another down instead of uplifting each other.

If you see another woman with the job you aspire to have, try befriending her and asking her to mentor you. If you see a friend with the relationship you wish you could have, try asking for her advice on how they maintain a healthy relationship. If you see a woman with the body you would love to have, try asking her for tips on how she maintains her body. We don’t have to continue the “I don’t get along with women” myth because we understand each other way more than any man could! Joining BFDC is one of the best decisions I have ever made because we embrace one another and we continuously try to push each other to succeed. So I challenge you to make a change today. When you see a woman who is happy or doing well for herself don’t get mad get GLAD!

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Development.

by Alexis Rhames on February 16, 2015

Development is defined as “the process in which someone or something grows or changes and becomes more advanced.” With development being an integral part of this organization, I challenge you to make this a priority. Often times we pinpoint specific areas of our lives in which we hope to improve. Challenge yourself to develop in all areas of your life. Be in constant competition with yourself, actively seeking to become better than the person you were last year, last week, or even yesterday. It has been said that the largest room in the world is the room for improvement. Imagine how much better the world would be if everyone strived for this. Imagine how much stronger our circle would be if all of our members strived for this. Keep in mind, however, that development is a process, and processes take time. But know that trusting this process will lead to a much more fulfilling life.

#BFDCLove

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What NOT to ask a Woman

by Johora Warren on February 10, 2015

“When are you going to have babies?”

“It’s that time for you to have babies!”

“When’s the baby coming along?”

“You’re not getting any younger! When are you having kids?”

“Are you pregnant yet? I bet you are!”

If I had a dollar for everytime I have been asked this question since getting married, I would be able to pay for my future “baby’s” college tuition!

I must admit, I am guilty of asking a woman, either newly engaged or married when she was going to start having children. It wasn’t until I got married myself that I realized just how invasive these questions truly are.

Not convinced? Imagine this: You’ve just gotten married and you are trying to conceive. It’s taking a lot longer than you hoped. You are seeing all of your married friends beginning to have children and you’re starting to get more and more anxious, possibly even envious. You’re being bombarded with questions as to when you’re going to have children when the people who are asking don’t know how much you want them and how long you have been trying to have one.

Or how about this: You’ve been trying to conceive and after no success you’ve gone to the doctor only to find out some devestating news: You’re infertile. People are asking you when you’re going to have children when they don’t know that you’re unable to.

What about this? You’re so excited that you are now pregnant but you want to wait your 3 months until you share with the world you’re pregnant. Then you suffer a devestating loss: You’ve had a miscarriage. You’re asked when you’re having children and they don’t realize the loss you’ve endured.

Or how about on the flip side: You think children are cute but they are not for you. You and your partner agree that you do not want children. It is incredibly annoying when people constantly ask you when you’re having kids when the answer is simple: You do not want them.

We should all take some time to think about just how invasive it is to ask a woman about when she is going to have children. It can be frustrating, annoying and hurtful to continuously ask her as well. A woman’s reproductive rights are very personal to her and we should all be cognizant of what we are asking, when it is really none of our business :-)

BFDC Love,

Johora Warren

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“A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin, and culture is like a tree without roots.”
― Marcus Garvey

On January 31, 1865, the United States Congress passed the thirteenth amendment which abolished slavery and involuntary servitude. Thus, we celebrate 150 years of freedom from the physical chains of bondage.

What a wonderful way to start Black History Month 2015.

In keeping with the history of Blacks in the United States of America, in what ways will you celebrate this year’s BHM? When Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year rolls around there are many ways that they are celebrated: parties, community service, resolutions to become better people. But what will you do to commemorate the legacy and history that your ancestors have established?

Ideas: learning more about Blacks that are not talked about as much, reevaluating your purpose and getting more in touch with your culture and history are just a few. And these ideas can be whatever you make them out to be. As long as its meaningful, it is worth having/doing.

Again, Happy Black History Month!!!

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“A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin, and culture is like a tree without roots.”
― Marcus Garvey

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Taking Steps

by Kiara Nair on January 27, 2015

How quickly did the last week of the new year approach us! As my fellow members mentioned already, the New Year brings about the rushing need to become this whole new person and do a ton of things in an impossible amount of time. With a resume full of incomplete goals, I’ve finally gained the wisdom to simply take steps. We have big aspirations and I certainly encourage it, but it’s important to not have false hopes of going 0mph to 525mph in 2 seconds.

Take steps! If you have dreams of visiting Nigeria or Tokyo… Don’t think you have to wait 5 years for it. Start getting used to traveling. In the mean time, have lunch in the nearest city to you. By the end of the year, you can make it a few states and before you know it, you’ll be making out-of-the-country trips! Want to have $25,000 smiling at you in the bank… In your checking account? Just start with putting 3% of your check away… And gradually do more. You’ll get there!

Take the pressure off yourself and just take steps. You’ll enjoy life a lot more!!

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Greetings!

Our National Conference is fast approaching, and this is certainly an event that you will not want to miss! This year’s conference will be hosted in the beautiful Washington, D.C. and our theme is “Blooming Excellence.” The purpose of this Conference is to celebrate our history as an organization and treat our members, alumni, and friends to a weekend of education, information and enjoyment. The 2015 National Conference will take place March 6-8, 2015 in Washington, D.C. at Le Meridien -Arlington, respectively. We anticipate a weekend full of informative speakers, networking, and positive opportunities for all involved. Please be reminded that the final payment deadline is Monday, January 26, and the cost per collegiate member is now $215 and $225 for alumni members. We look forward to seeing you there!

Let’s paint D.C. PURPLE!

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New Year, New You Right? We all want new jobs, new cars, new workout regimens, and new blessings. Matthew 7:7 says “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you”. Not to get all spiritual on you ladies this fine morning but aren’t we blessed in so many manners of life?! We attend fine institutions, work at great companies and are involved in such enriching organizations such as BFDC.  In our country alone, 10.2 million Americans work for charitable organizations, this means 7% of our population works just to help others! We are so blessed to live in a country such as this and to serve such a giving God, he gives us all that we need in due time. But have you ever stopped and asked, “what have I done to deserve this, what do I owe?”. We simply owe Him praise and a meager tithe. Give with an open heart and open hand because that which you have given will be returned tenfold.  Giving graciously and being generous also spurs joy. Joyous giving is the way of the follower who understands that what he or she has now is not truly theirs, it was given by God and thus must be returned to God in order to be multiplied.

Admire what you have been blessed with ladies and take it with you into the New Year. Give a Little & Gain A lot!

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At the end of every year people begin to make NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS, but these resolutions quite often go without being fulfilled. So this year I decided to work on becoming more refined. After all, making positive changes in your life should be a continuous thing and not something limited to the end of one year and the beginning of another.

So this New Year I am more focused on refining the past me and enjoying new experiences. I’m done making changes to meet anyone else’s standards/expectations except for my own. Instead my year will be about reaching goals that I have yet to fully accomplish, revisiting people and places that I love, practicing old hobbies that I enjoy, exploring the world with a new set of eyes, and not fearing fear itself. These are the things that I am looking forward to this NEW YEAR, while still being the same me.

Below is a post I ran across on Facebook that I found to be very meaningful…

Resolve to renew all your old resolves…And add a few that are new…Repel every thought of discontent, anxiety, and discouragement…Trust that there is nothing wrong with the person you are…Realize that there is always room for growth…Do the things you always wished you could…And Live a simple, sincere, and serene life.

With that being said….What plans do you have for the New Year? How do you plan on refining yourself this time around? Do you see yourself becoming a new person this year or simply evolving?

Happy New Year Ladies!!!

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