The Black Female Development Circle is a 501(c)3 organization that was established in 1994 to serve as a support system for black women. The organization's mission is"To Educate, Explore, Enhance, and Celebrate Womanhood" and has chapters at UCF, FSU, TSU, and FIU. Read more...

Taking Steps

by Kiara Nair on January 27, 2015

How quickly did the last week of the new year approach us! As my fellow members mentioned already, the New Year brings about the rushing need to become this whole new person and do a ton of things in an impossible amount of time. With a resume full of incomplete goals, I’ve finally gained the wisdom to simply take steps. We have big aspirations and I certainly encourage it, but it’s important to not have false hopes of going 0mph to 525mph in 2 seconds.

Take steps! If you have dreams of visiting Nigeria or Tokyo… Don’t think you have to wait 5 years for it. Start getting used to traveling. In the mean time, have lunch in the nearest city to you. By the end of the year, you can make it a few states and before you know it, you’ll be making out-of-the-country trips! Want to have $25,000 smiling at you in the bank… In your checking account? Just start with putting 3% of your check away… And gradually do more. You’ll get there!

Take the pressure off yourself and just take steps. You’ll enjoy life a lot more!!

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Greetings!

Our National Conference is fast approaching, and this is certainly an event that you will not want to miss! This year’s conference will be hosted in the beautiful Washington, D.C. and our theme is “Blooming Excellence.” The purpose of this Conference is to celebrate our history as an organization and treat our members, alumni, and friends to a weekend of education, information and enjoyment. The 2015 National Conference will take place March 6-8, 2015 in Washington, D.C. at Le Meridien -Arlington, respectively. We anticipate a weekend full of informative speakers, networking, and positive opportunities for all involved. Please be reminded that the final payment deadline is Monday, January 26, and the cost per collegiate member is now $215 and $225 for alumni members. We look forward to seeing you there!

Let’s paint D.C. PURPLE!

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New Year, New You Right? We all want new jobs, new cars, new workout regimens, and new blessings. Matthew 7:7 says “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you”. Not to get all spiritual on you ladies this fine morning but aren’t we blessed in so many manners of life?! We attend fine institutions, work at great companies and are involved in such enriching organizations such as BFDC.  In our country alone, 10.2 million Americans work for charitable organizations, this means 7% of our population works just to help others! We are so blessed to live in a country such as this and to serve such a giving God, he gives us all that we need in due time. But have you ever stopped and asked, “what have I done to deserve this, what do I owe?”. We simply owe Him praise and a meager tithe. Give with an open heart and open hand because that which you have given will be returned tenfold.  Giving graciously and being generous also spurs joy. Joyous giving is the way of the follower who understands that what he or she has now is not truly theirs, it was given by God and thus must be returned to God in order to be multiplied.

Admire what you have been blessed with ladies and take it with you into the New Year. Give a Little & Gain A lot!

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At the end of every year people begin to make NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS, but these resolutions quite often go without being fulfilled. So this year I decided to work on becoming more refined. After all, making positive changes in your life should be a continuous thing and not something limited to the end of one year and the beginning of another.

So this New Year I am more focused on refining the past me and enjoying new experiences. I’m done making changes to meet anyone else’s standards/expectations except for my own. Instead my year will be about reaching goals that I have yet to fully accomplish, revisiting people and places that I love, practicing old hobbies that I enjoy, exploring the world with a new set of eyes, and not fearing fear itself. These are the things that I am looking forward to this NEW YEAR, while still being the same me.

Below is a post I ran across on Facebook that I found to be very meaningful…

Resolve to renew all your old resolves…And add a few that are new…Repel every thought of discontent, anxiety, and discouragement…Trust that there is nothing wrong with the person you are…Realize that there is always room for growth…Do the things you always wished you could…And Live a simple, sincere, and serene life.

With that being said….What plans do you have for the New Year? How do you plan on refining yourself this time around? Do you see yourself becoming a new person this year or simply evolving?

Happy New Year Ladies!!!

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New Year, New You… or Nah?

by Sandra Miles on December 29, 2014

It’s that time of year again where we try to pretend like the last year didn’t happen and we look forward to a new year and all the hope and promise that it brings.

Well this year, I’m doing something different – this year I’m reflecting on everything that occurred this past year and thanking God for my successes and failures. I’m reliving the good times in my mind and appreciating the lessons learned (and cringing a little) from the bad choices I made.

So why the reflection? It could be because I know my time as BFDC National Director is coming to an end and I’m considering my legacy. Maybe it’s because I’ve watched my mother go in and out and back in the hospital and the past is starting to feel more meaningful than the future. Or maybe it’s because the Earth’s life cycle doesn’t actually restart until March (i.e. Spring), and, as I get more in tune with nature I’m just not ready for “new” yet (that was deep, right?).

Truthfully, it’s a combination of all those things. Everything that happened in 2014 and prior has made me the fan-freakin-tastic person I am today. I’m not where I want to be, but as a Black Female constantly in a Development cycle (Circle), I know that will continue to evolve – and for the first time, I don’t feel the need to place parameters on it. Do I have new goals? OF COURSE – but it’s the preparation of yesterday and today that will get me there.

So this New Year, I say nah – there won’t be a new me. I’ll still be amazingly awesome but with a little more Excellence blooming on top.

#BFDCLove

#BFDConPurpose

See you at the BFDC National Conference in Washington, DC!! #BloomingExcellence

Love always,

~Sandra

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Happy Holidays

by Shirelle Wright on December 22, 2014

Happy Holidays!
 
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life” (John 3:16).
bfdcholiday

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The regular registration deadline for the BFDC 5th National Conference “Blooming Excellence” is quickly approaching. I want to take this time to encourage you to Experience this event for Yourself. We have an exciting line up planned, including our featured speakers Bereolaesque and Angela Donald who is sure to leave you in your feelings (in a great way).

2015 National Conference
“Blooming Excellence”
Friday, March 6, 2015
8pm National Miss Woman of Excellence Pageant
Saturday, March 7, 2015
Sessions, Sessions, Sessions!!!
12:00pm Luncheon and Keynote Address
Featuring – Bereolaesque
Q & A and Book Signing

http://www.bereolaesque-online.com/

6pm – 8pm Paint the City Purple
Sunday, March 8, 2015
9:00am Spirit Led, Spirit Fed Breakfast/ Group Therapy
Featuring Angela Donald

The regular registration deadline is December 15th and we want to see you all there. This experience recap will not do this event justice. Be there to capture the energy, bottle the inspiration, and make memories that will last a lifetime. You work hard, you owe this to yourself. BFDC Love

Brittany

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I Am Not Who You Say I Am

by Jazmin Jones on December 1, 2014

This week was an emotional rollercoaster for many of us. The Mike Brown case filled me with mixed emotions about my place in this world, better yet in this country. How safe can I be in a nation that sees me as an animal first and a person second? How safe can I feel in a nation where people will shoot first and ask questions later?

I thought about my ancestors, how they must be shaking their heads and rolling their eyes at their hard work unraveling. How destroyed they must be. How disappointed they must be in our actions this week.

Then thanksgiving came and I saw a glimmer of hope. I was surrounded by loving family members that reminded me of who I am and who I belong to. I am a Christian, a child of God. I am a strong black woman who comes from a strong line of black men and women who suffered in silence so that I can speak up.
I am not an animal, a beast, or a demon.
I am not a threat to national security.
I am not just a color.
I am not just a woman.
I am not who you say I am.

I am human and I expect to be treated as such.

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Gratitude

by Kiara Nair on November 24, 2014

With Thanksgiving coming in just a few days, we often have 3 things on our mind:

1. What we’re going to eat,

2. The awesome deals we’re going to get on Black Friday and

3. What we are truly grateful for.

 

Strategically, number three is often last on our list. Unfortunately, this time of year is moreso about “getting” than it is about “giving”… Thanksgiving is slowing becoming known as Brown Thursday because Black Friday deals are now beginning on the actual day that we reserve to spend time with our family, friends and loved ones! You’d be surprised how many people are planning to end dinner early just to go get the things they want. All in all, let’s really enjoy this day. For some of us, this may be the ONLY day our families actually want to come together. Make the most of it. Make new memories with family and friends you haven’t seen in 364 days. Take pictures because you may not know when you may see them again. Relish in the day…

 

Be grateful! Life may not be what you want it to be but I’m sure we can agree that it’s far better than it was! I leave with you this awesome poem I was blessed to be apart of… Enjoy!

 

 

Sincerely, Kiara J. Nair-Mason

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Embrace Yourself

by Johnesha Hinson on November 17, 2014

Dear Woman,

Sometimes you’ll just be too much woman.

Too smart, too sexy, too strong.

Too bold, too beautiful, too real.

Too much of something that makes a man feel like less of a man, which will start making you feel like

you have to be less of a woman to be with that man.

One of the biggest mistakes you can make as a woman is removing jewels from your crown to make it

easier for a man to carry.

You do not need a smaller crown.

You need a man with bigger hands.

I came across this letter on Facebook and I LOVED it! As women we NEED to hold ourselves to a higher standard. Often times we find ourselves so desperate for companionship that we will do anything to get the attention of a man. I learned a long time ago not to apologize for being ME. As women we have to embrace our looks, our personalities, and our ambitions because no one else can truly love us until we love ourselves.

“At your absolute best, you still won’t be good enough for the WRONG person. At your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right person.”

So to my fellow single sisters I encourage you to continue building yourself up, work towards self-actualization, enjoy the single life, DON’T SETTLE for less than you deserve, and have faith that you will find your companion when the time is right.

#BFDClove #BFDConPurpose

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